As long as the environment changes slightly
I feel like I'm drifting with the flow
Feel that I am being influenced by the people around me
Huang Pengjun

Huang Pengjun

Wake School founder

Further reading

Accomplishing life goals is a piece of cake! An exclusive secret that will be used for a lifetime / image from pexels

Complete the life goal list with a piece of cake! Exclusive secret techniques used for life

A list of seemingly unattainable goal in life,Want to complete but always unable to do it? Hundreds of ways to achieve your goals,But what exactly is it really effective? Buy a car、Buy a house、Travel around the world、marry、Birth、elderly life…,I want to do a lot,But what can I do now? I'll tell you today,How to rely on "three questions",Let yourself successfully achieve their goals in life! ! Everyone has a few goals in life,But where to start and finish,Is the most difficult thing。How do I know what I can do now? First of all,You must clarify the "three questions"。after that,"How to start?Will be solved。 Three questions to help you complete the list of life goals planning 1. What do I want? Inventory lists goals in life,Focus on firepower to achieve your dreams。The list of projects not too many goals in life,Because every stage will have different dreams,And too many goals are unrealistic,Unable to achieve。So list up to five big goals,And how long before。Whether it is a physiological need、Relationships,Or career planning、Future expectations,Can be regarded as a goal。E.g:I want to buy a house within ten years。 2.What limits me? Clarify the current situation,Consider your own identity,And think about the family、jobs、What does social economic status limit me。Dream is the most beautiful,But also must bow to reality。But don't worry,Looking down now does not mean that you can’t look up in the future。To figure out the present situation is not to give up your dream,It's about letting yourself aim,Move faster。Ask yourself what are the possible reasons that prevent me from achieving my goal in life? And write them down one by one。E.g:I don't have enough deposit。 3.How do I break the limit? You can now find things to do,And proceed。As long as I really want to do,You can do anything! (Excluding things that violate moral ethics)。But everything is difficult to start,How to start is the biggest test。therefore,"Planning" is a very important part。Set life goals、After clarifying reality,Also know what difficulties are encountered,You can start planning,Turn big problems into smaller problems,Minor problems become no problem。E.g:Start saving tomorrow,One-month cost reduction of two thousand yuan。 Remarks:When you reach the third step,The task to be completed may be a little difficult,At this time, continue to disassemble this problem into smaller、Easier to reach problem。You can also make the task more specific、More detailed completion time and completion method。E.g:Buy two fewer clothes every month。 When the target list with the method of life to buy a house is not a problem in the "planning",You must keep asking yourself the above three questions:"What do I want?"、"What limits me?"、"How do I break the limit?"。In addition,Can also use the same question repeatedly,Make "planning" better。E.g:From the original "I want to buy a house in ten years,But I don’t have enough deposit,So i should save money。"Extends to "I want to reduce the cost of 2,000 yuan per month,But shopping desires cost me too much,So I have to buy two clothes less a month。"The problem is at the end,Which means "buy two fewer clothes a month",Already an easy goal。From then on, start to complete your life goals,Will look a lot easier。 Since the planning method has,Then hit the iron while it's hot,Pick up the paper and pen at hand,Immediately draw your own blueprint for life goals! As for how to portray it? We can use the mind map to analyze this list of life goals。Examples are as follows: Starting from the big goal (buying a house within ten years),Identified income and insufficient deposits as the main obstacles。therefore,In the next branch, you can present these two points,And indicate the main reason for insufficient income and deposits。Keep exploring,Will be able to clarify the current I can do,That is reading management books、Take a communication course and buy two fewer clothes a month。 Practice-based Heart supplemented believe many people have seen or heard of the "secret" of this book - as long as there is life goals,And want to reach the goal,You will move towards your goal。The reason is actually very simple,When you want to accomplish something,Will naturally start planning。gradually,Shallow consciousness will tell you must complete it。There is a 34-year-old girl Misaki in Japan,With 15 years of frugality,Bought three houses。The mental method she uses is to set a goal in life on a notebook:I will buy a second house at the age of 29;And bought the third building at the age of 34。In this way,Dreams naturally come closer to reality,Will also be completed in a smooth manner。(Further reading:Live frugally even buy three rooms! Japan's 27-year-old girl determined to homebuyers program after six years of interviews already landlady) a list of their goals in life from now complete! Based on the above points,Can draw a conclusion:Complete their goals in life is to set a vow to myself (life goals),Then I kept asking myself "What do I want?"、"What limits me?"、"How do I break the limit?",And start planning right away。It's not difficult to achieve life goals,The difficulty is whether you are willing to work hard for your goals,And work hard for it。At last,The same old saying,As long as you have the heart,You can do it! Go bravely towards your dreams!

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苓業-社會新鮮人

Recruit talents to find young people who are part-time and steadfast ≠ slash!

The supervisor is looking at the resumes of social freshmen,When recruiting talents,I will definitely see what part-time experience or expertise this person has,Although these indicators have certain reference value,To recruit talents but not completely reliable。Is it,More part-time experience or good communication skills,Can it represent that he is a talent? Supervisors,wake up,And otherwise! Fresh graduates,I'm often eager to find a job that meets my expectations,Therefore, they all use the "18 martial arts" to highlight their life experience and value,But think calmly,But when recruiting talents,Fresh graduate,Deducted meals in the past four years、Time to sleep and read,How much energy can you do as many part-time jobs? How does he act as the master of his time,Years to spend four years in college it? Why reflect on these issues are important? We start with a very red Speaking of vocabulary - slash youth。 Recruit talent,He has 10 identities,Is the "slash youth"? Or in the "find yourself"? Last year (2017) to start,"Slash youth" has become a very popular vocabulary,"Slash" (/,Slash) concept,It is "New York Times" columnist Marcy. Ai Bohe proposed in his book "One Person/Multiple Careers",詞意可簡單解釋為「擁有多項專業身分的人」在經濟不景氣的大時空背景下不只產業想盡辦法因應挑戰年輕人也希望自己的職涯規劃經得起環境考驗因此當「斜槓青年」出現時許多年輕人都立志以此作為自己新的人生標竿期待自己將來在社會上能多幾個撇(/)證明自己是有多項價值的人才不會淪為被淘汰的那一位。 however,因為有這樣的心志許多人都忘了「專業需要長時間培養」結果很多學生在大學四年間忙著兼職可能為自己累積了10種身分,I think this can increase the number of slashes on the resume,Make your experience look more beautiful,And earn a little tuition by the way、living expenses,Feel great、Very independent。 But... after finishing a part-time job,If you ask him "What have you learned?",10About 6-7 people can say:"I learned how to get along with people,這些時間下來我的溝通技巧增進了不少!還認識了更多朋友,A little business contacts! "What? Come on! ... that his professional capacity? His passion for it? in fact,他對未來可能還很迷惘,Only through part-time "find yourself"! How to recruit talent encountered "slash"? If a part-time to every last learn the most are 'communication skills、經營人脈」那麼對斜槓青年真是天大的誤會!並不是說「溝通技巧經營人脈」不重要招募人才時他在最該好好學習提升專業能力的歲月裡做了他次等重要的事情或者說,Those things in the future to worry too late! As with the above meaning of the word "slash youth," explained,它的意思是「擁有多項『專業』身分的人」而不是「擁有多項『兼職經歷』或『興趣專長』」這個「專業」至少要是通達在該領域的基本知識「之上」而且有人願意買單欣賞,There are even experts in the field acknowledge that you really have a professional! and so,「兼職多≠斜槓青年」兼職多往往只是急於滿足自己內在志氣的虛榮心搞錯重點還可能沒發現自己可能是更受不了金錢的誘惑到頭來只是增加幾項表面能力專業上並沒有太多認知深度的增加所以招募人才時,Pick fresh look at the people in the end what? Young people just graduated,最重要的是看他「如何管理時間?如何運用時間?」大學四年可以做的事情很多努力讀書提升專業能力和成績固然很重要卻不是要學生都當書呆子除了成績還可以看看新鮮人在校園時做過哪些有價值的事情。E.g,擔任班級學會或是社團幹部,There have been no real contribution? Whether these affect his professional? Or for his professional has a plus? Other,兼職也不全然代表他就是一個迷惘的人雖然上述說兼職並不代表一個人很有能力但如果他不是上述那種「搞錯重點的人」兼職經驗有實際的價值貢獻能對他所追求的專業目標有幫助有抓到時間安排的平衡點甚至有該專業領域的人為他背書,Then,這樣的兼職就不至於被否認還可以為他所嚮往的專業領域加分主管在面試新鮮人招募人才時要從對方的言談裡了解到: 1、How did he make himself master of time? 2、 他如何在課業活動、part time、家庭和基本生活中取得平衡點? 3、 Does he have a certain degree (or deeper) Cognitive observed in this field of expertise? 4、 他會不會是「還在找自己」一心只想快點幫自己多加幾撇(/)的迷惘青年?

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社交恐懼症-人際關係

Save social phobia? These two beliefs are a stumbling block to interpersonal problems

Social,Many people's Achilles Heel。Are you a stage,Nervous to speak? More than one person can not be free? Not take the initiative to make friends? The party occasions,Fear of becoming the focus of the crowd? In fact, this kind of "social phobia.",In many cases relationships with "attitude" about,Over time it becomes restrictive beliefs,Has a significant impact on interpersonal relationships。 Many people think they are born with "social phobia.",But in fact just the use of faith to think about the people I relations,The two most common heart restrictive beliefs are: Belief in a restrictive relationship problems:Everybody pay attention to me in relationships,The face of social or public,Will feel intense fear or anxiety of people,Many everyone is limited by the inherent belief,So that excessive anxiety in social situations,Express themselves unable to relax,From time to time afraid of embarrassing behavior will embarrass or,And believe that others often pay attention to his performance。Especially when he senses the performance is not as expected,Everyone will speculate certainly aware of their shortcomings。 Restrictive faith relationship problems two:This time I'll make a fool,They'll think I'm useless、Incompetent people for their performance often unjustified negative thoughts,Often think that they can know the future,Expect the worst will happen,Or think they know what others are thinking,Then my heart that others will surely make a negative evaluation of their own。Once the negative expectations come true,They make themselves more back in social situations、fear,So that the self-confidence of bankruptcy。 How to break through limiting beliefs? In interpersonal problems,Limiting belief is a terrible obstacle,Not be able to build relationships with people。Ling Industry Institute of International Education founder Huang Pengjun representation,"A lot of people want to be successful,Willpower alone,It will be very hard,You must have environmental,Encourage each other,Because the environment is always greater than the individual will。"Interpersonal touched by faith,Like an iceberg,Only through self-exploration,According chance to see the underlying psychological subtle,Well-known writer Byron. Kai Didi (Byron Katie) was the author "an idea of ​​the revolution" (Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life) to help the reader switched,Eliminate the negative state of mind。 Ask yourself these four sentences,Let the mind automatically answered only four questioning,Byron. Katie teaches us a whole new look at all vexed question: first question:is this real? second question:I really know this is true?

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