Is in charge of matters assigned,You just do not bother and complain? In fact, executives and you want out differently! A "switched",There will be more opportunities in life Flip。
Huang Pengjun

Huang Pengjun

Wake School founder

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Misanthropy is not a crime to embrace their negative energy it! / Images from pexels

Misanthropy is not a crime to release negative energy it yourself!

厭世的人生有那麼糟嗎?看什麼都不順眼、Everything felt good trouble、覺得活著好累!很多人覺得厭世只會帶來負面影響,But in fact,能擁抱負能量的人心理狀態往往是更加強大! 你是否總是看什麼都不順眼、Everything felt good trouble、Feel alive tired? Perhaps many people feel weary will only have a negative impact。however,Research indicates that,But excessive positive energy so that the pressure will become increasingly heavy;能擁抱負能量的人,Mental state is often more powerful。 The release of negative energy to show moderation,厭世讓你釐清現實 釋放負能量首先適度地展現負面能量,Is not only a good way to vent pressure,But also to avoid a crisis at a critical moment。 知名精神科醫師林耕新在2015年發表的文章中指出,Excessive positive thinking will make people ignore the dangers and difficulties are real。After realizing that the crisis,It will become impossible to adapt to the reality,Thus resulting in a more melancholy soul。 Is like driving a vehicle,Overly optimistic people might think, "As long as I'm safe driving,I will be able to safely reach their destination。」;World-weary people might think, "Even if I have to drive no matter how safe,Still others are likely to be hit。"The reality is,Unexpected always comes unexpectedly。When the other vehicle accident collision over,厭世的人反而能比樂觀者更快注意到危險的存在,And avoid as much as possible。 過度樂觀使情緒更低落 美國的兩位心理學家Julie Norem和Nancy Cantor在1986年發表了一篇廣為人知的論文。Which introduces two terms,Strategic optimism與Defensive pessimism,That is "Strategy type of optimism" and "defensive pessimism"。 Has a "strategy Optimism" qualities of people,Good to imagine a better result,And hope to try to do it;The "defensive pessimism" traits of people,It is a negative attitude to predict error that may occur,And when the job as much as possible to avoid errors。Although these two types of people,On doing things can have quite an achievement。But much,People "optimistic strategy type" off than "defensive pessimism" have the opportunity to have a greater pressure,This is due to the thwarted expectations sake。 In addition,Julie Norem也在她的書(The Positive Power Of Negative Thinking)中表示,Often weary of the negative energy into positive energy to change,At work to show better results。 厭世不是罪 過度樂觀更危險 除了以上所說的觀點許多研究也指出 —「必須保持樂觀」的心理狀態,Likely to cause greater pressure。 像是2016年的情緒期刊(Emotion)所刊登的「強迫保持正向思考是否比較快樂」研究俄亥俄州立大學醫學中心的心理學家Sophie

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Work pressure to breathe? Three ways to help you release stress / images from pexels

Work pressure want to die? Three-step pulverizing pressure!

工作壓力大到讓你的生活亂了腳步?面臨主管的打壓、Colleagues' competition,You who work hard to take responsibility,Behind is the unfinished mortgage、Taxes,Powerless、You can't breathe without help。 The human body is like a balloon,Gave too much air,Cause excessive stress,One day it will explode because it can't bear it。工作壓力大是現代人的通病,If you leave it alone,I am afraid it will affect the physical and mental health and interpersonal relationships,Even further away from the closest family。But how to properly relieve work pressure? Let's give ourselves ten minutes,Think hard,壓力對自己而言是什麼吧! 工作壓力大想死? 必須先認識壓力 壓力源是從哪來的? 不停忍耐加上無法釋放,Leading to increasing pressure。however,When stress is not properly liberated,Only a vicious circle,Make the pressure expand infinitely。Disturbance in the workplace,You must know if you are out of society。Envy among colleagues、Distrust of the supervisor、A pile of undigested work…,Want to change but don't know what to do。Obviously I work hard,But some people are pulling their hind legs,But because of maintaining friendship between colleagues,You always take a tolerant role。But have you ever thought about,While accommodating others,How much resentment、anger、Helplessly swallowed into your belly? Bit by bit makes you more and more stressed,And work hard to die。 工作壓力將如何影響你? 適當的壓力使人成長,But if the pressure is not adjusted properly,Too much stress will only make the body and mind unable to bear、Health lights up red。Stress is a chronic disease,Its influence is far greater than you imagine,Constantly eroding your body and mind。Not only is my heart depressed by pressure,Cause emotional instability,The body will also be out of condition。Endocrine disorders、Arrhythmia、Gastrointestinal diseases、decrease in immunity,Even increased the risk of death from cardiovascular disease。 The Republic of China Heart Foundation conducted a workplace survey of more than 1,000 office workers in the three metropolitan areas of China,Nearly 80% of the respondents work more than seven hours a day,There is a large part of people who suffer from insomnia almost every day due to work pressure。Don't underestimate the power of work pressure,Face up to its impact,Is there a way to solve it effectively。 It ’s hard to hear of the case of working hard because of work pressure,News of overwork and health problems is not uncommon。How to effectively relieve stress? The writer John Miller mentioned in his book,"You cannot change others,Only you can change。"When all the unhappiness comes one after another,Can only change oneself,Adjust mentality、Adjusting the pace of work is the key to solving stress。 喘口氣吧! 釋放工作壓力三大招 安排時間是門藝術,Relaxation is also part of the itinerary。 Not just the timing of transaction execution,Arrangement of relaxation time is also necessary。List the transactions within one by one,Sort by priority,Solve it again。Always be aware of any delays,Also remember not to delay。Once the first item is delayed,Later tasks will not keep up with the estimated completion time,Work pressure is increasing。As for the time after work,Or a holiday that can breathe,Schedule a period of relaxation、Worry-free itinerary! Whether watching TV at home、listen to music、daze,Or go outing with family,Are good choices。 Maybe someone will think,Special arrangements to relax are a waste of time。however,According to research by the University of California,Intermittent stress activates brain cells,Although it can effectively enhance memory;But constant pressure,Causes the brain to inhibit the development of new cells,Which in turn leads to reduced efficiency,So timely relaxation is very important。In addition, you may wish to put a brief relaxation into the work list.,When you are busy, give yourself time to activate your brain cells,工作效率才能有所提升! 轉換工作模式、Positive reply is the beginning of progress。 Try different working modes,You can also ask other people's suggestions,Make your work ability improve more and more。however,Not everything can end perfectly under the premise of taking care of yourself。Like meeting a supervisor、Colleagues make things difficult for you。Then,Just change your mindset,Reply to yourself with positive words,The problem will be solved。For example "This is a good opportunity to hone",Or "He is just jealous of me,I want to work harder upstream,Make him speechless ",The mood will calm down a lot,Work pressure will also be reduced,It can even make the work ability gradually increase。 In addition,Adam Grant, a professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, has done an experiment,The experiment content is,Just remind employees of the meaning and importance of work,They will be more motivated,To become more productive。So always reminding yourself of the meaning and importance of work is also one of the ways to relieve stress。 Don't brace yourself,有人可以協助你! 當發現壓力已經大到令你不舒服時,Don't be afraid to ask for help。Everyone has pressure,That's not abnormal,It can even be said to be a very common phenomenon。People who collapse due to stress are not low in stress resistance,But loves to be more brave than others。If the above methods cannot help you,Then it ’s time to give it to the professional。Like Zhang Line 1980、1995 or the Department of Health at ease lifeline Line 0800-788-995,There are professional consultants to help you out。Among those who participated in the consultation,More than 80% said that professional consultation effectively solved the pressure。 If you think the pressure is still under control,But still often feel depressed,May wish to participate in some spiritual exploration related courses or adjust emotional stress courses,Professional teachers can also be tailored for you,Give effective assistance。must remember,Stress is not sick,But the pressure is so high。Don't ignore stress,Self-communication、Seeking family or friends or professional consultation,Don't always stand alone,那是不健康的! 用對方法 從壓力中解脫 世界衛生組織(WHO)this year(2019)Conduct a pressure index survey for each country,data shows that,Taiwan ranks second in the stress index,並有96%的人經常感受到壓力。Visible in Taiwan,How common is stress,Even became a habit and gradually ignored him。 pressure,Much more complicated than we thought。Not only involves the human body system,Also related to psychological issues。Take a moment to understand your pressure,才有機會和它

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克服恐懼迎向光明

How to overcome social phobia? 3 Great Minds to Regain Action,The first step is to know yourself

Social phobia,Is a symptom that many people have,Have you ever had a lot of things you want to do,Why can't I mention motivation? Is it easy to take a holiday,Just want to stay at home,Lying on the couch watching tv,There is no vitality in the whole body? Eager to try at first,I didn't want to do it later,Nothing was done in the end? Among them, knowing yourself is the key,How to know yourself,Can you help yourself be more motivated? The following three sharing action methods,Recommended for people who desire effective self-change。 The first step to overcome social phobia:Know yourself,我的心魔是什麼? 認識自己,It seems very abstract,A little more colloquial,就是「剖析自我問題」。 Whether you want to lose weight、Learn language、Practice a skill,Want to make myself better,These changes are not simple,The key to self-change is to know yourself,Instead of challenging willpower。Want to make self-change,The first step must be to analyze self problems,Which is to find out the cause of past failures,To clarify why it is like this,在哪些狀況下自己沒辦法堅持所造成的? 第一步很難,It's crucial! because,Know yourself,Must be able to admit their weaknesses,And discover the reasons why I failed repeatedly,Otherwise, you will always work hard in the wrong place。在《為什麼我們這樣生活那樣工作?》一書中提出了「習慣迴路」理論,The author says he wants to break old habits,Automatic navigation mechanism to develop new habits,The key to knowing yourself is self-awareness。 Habit can't be changed,But can replace,The first step is to know yourself,Find out the inner automatic navigation mechanism。E.g:A person who wants to lose weight,I can’t stop the habit of eating snacks at work,Only know yourself and tap the core issues,To find out why I can’t quit snacks,It may be because you want to escape work pressure, etc.,After mastering the core problem,This is where the right medicine is put into action,Alternative behavior can find someone to chat or chew gum to relieve pressure,Problem-oriented action can effectively change itself。therefore,Knowing yourself is an important exercise。 克服社交恐懼症第二步:Setting target,我真心想要什麼? 光是承認自己的弱點還不夠還必須認真去思考「自己到底想要什麼」,E.g:我到底渴望什麼?我想成為怎麼樣的人?我到底想完成什麼事情?未來想要什麼樣的生活?想在別人面前呈現一個怎樣的自己? 設定目標超關鍵!就好比你今天想要去某個地方,If you don't have a goal,How can I get there? Where to go? How much time does it take? These have no clue,Not to mention the power of action。 If you don’t know what you really want,Any effort is in vain,It may even make you run counter to your goals,In the end, it is farther and farther away from what I want。You will find,Many people did not plan to play really,for example,Many people shout all day to lose weight,But the mouth is still eating。therefore,If you are eager to make change happen,We must set a goal for ourselves。 The key is here! Set this goal,Must be visible to you,Once again a little bit of a challenge,You have to get out of the comfort zone to achieve it,But this goal will not make you completely impossible,Because setting the right goals,So that you can believe that you can actually accomplish it。If you are too greedy at first,The goal set is too big,Too big to believe in your heart,Then set this goal,Is meaningless to you,The goal is set to give yourself a direction to put into action。 Only,After setting the goal,I wake up every morning to know what I am going to accomplish? What things should I do? Although this goal,I'm still far away from myself,it's OK,It can really be done,Only "believing" can do it,So I don’t give up all at once。 克服社交恐懼症第三步:Assessment status,我願意犧牲什麼? 第一步找出核心問題之後,Also set the right goals,Know where i am going,Next you have to know how many resources you currently have,Assess how you plan to achieve this goal? After all, wishful thinking for yourself is empty,Because it is very likely that he has not met the conditions for that goal。 after all,Running a marathon is the purpose,A person who is running and a person who is not used to exercise,The sports plan prepared before the game will be very different。therefore,It's important to understand what you lack。 the first:了解自己的實力到哪裡? 第二了解自己跟目標的距離? 這樣子,So that they can exchange the resources they desire for the goals they desire,E.g:Sweat and time to exchange body;Exchange language ability with effort and money,After all, no one can do anything,By evaluating objective conditions and understanding the current situation,Carry out the three major action methods,Get the life you really want to have。 See here,Are you in a hurry to get back the power? At last,May wish to write down two things:1Write down something you want to achieve,But the goal that has never been achieved。2What does this goal mean to you? What are the benefits after reaching it? In this way,Distance dream,One step closer。

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