Is in charge of matters assigned,You just do not bother and complain? In fact, executives and you want out differently! A "switched",There will be more opportunities in life Flip。
Huang Pengjun

Huang Pengjun

Wake School founder

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厭世不是罪 擁抱自己的負能量吧!/圖片來自pexels

厭世不是罪 自己釋放負能量吧!

厭世的人生有那麼糟嗎?看什麼都不順眼感到每件事都好麻煩覺得活著好累!很多人覺得厭世只會帶來負面影響但其實能擁抱負能量的人心理狀態往往是更加強大! 你是否總是看什麼都不順眼感到每件事都好麻煩覺得活著好累?也許很多人都覺得厭世只會帶來負面影響。however,研究指出過度的正能量反而會使得壓力變得越來越沈重能擁抱負能量的人心理狀態往往是更加強大釋放負能量先適度展現厭世讓你釐清現實 釋放負能量首先適度地展現負面能量不但是宣洩壓力的一個好方式也能在關鍵時刻避免危機發生知名精神科醫師林耕新在2015年發表的文章中指出過度的正面思考會讓人忽略真實存在的危險與困境在意識到那些危機後便會變得無法適應現實進而造成心靈更加憂鬱就像是在駕駛車輛過度樂觀的人也許會認為「只要我是安全駕駛我將能平安到達目的地。」;厭世的人或許會這麼想「就算我駕駛得再怎麼安全還是有可能被別人撞」而現實則是意外總是來得出其不意當其他車輛意外衝撞過來時厭世的人反而能比樂觀者更快注意到危險的存在並盡可能地避開過度樂觀使情緒更低落 美國的兩位心理學家Julie Norem和Nancy Cantor在1986年發表了一篇廣為人知的論文其中提出了兩個名詞Strategic optimism與Defensive pessimism也就是「策略型的樂觀」及「防衛型的悲觀」擁有「策略型樂觀」特質的人善於想像美好的結果並希望能盡力去完成它而「防衛型悲觀」特質的人則是用消極的心態去預測可能會發生的錯誤且在作業時盡可能避免錯誤雖然這兩種類型的人在處事上都能有相當的成就但相較之下「策略型的樂觀」的人又比「防衛型悲觀」有機會產生較大的壓力這是由於期望落空的緣故。 In addition,Julie Norem也在她的書(The Positive Power Of Negative Thinking)中表示厭世的負能量往往能變向轉為正能量在工作上展現出更好的成效厭世不是罪 過度樂觀更危險 除了以上所說的觀點許多研究也指出 —「必須保持樂觀」的心理狀態容易造成更大的壓力像是2016年的情緒期刊(Emotion)所刊登的「強迫保持正向思考是否比較快樂」研究俄亥俄州立大學醫學中心的心理學家Sophie

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Work pressure to breathe? Three ways to help you release stress / images from pexels

Work pressure want to die? Three-step pulverizing pressure!

工作壓力大到讓你的生活亂了腳步?面臨主管的打壓、Colleagues' competition,You who work hard to take responsibility,Behind is the unfinished mortgage、Taxes,Powerless、You can't breathe without help。 The human body is like a balloon,Gave too much air,Cause excessive stress,One day it will explode because it can't bear it。工作壓力大是現代人的通病,If you leave it alone,I am afraid it will affect the physical and mental health and interpersonal relationships,Even further away from the closest family。But how to properly relieve work pressure? Let's give ourselves ten minutes,Think hard,壓力對自己而言是什麼吧! 工作壓力大想死? 必須先認識壓力 壓力源是從哪來的? 不停忍耐加上無法釋放,Leading to increasing pressure。however,When stress is not properly liberated,Only a vicious circle,Make the pressure expand infinitely。Disturbance in the workplace,You must know if you are out of society。Envy among colleagues、Distrust of the supervisor、A pile of undigested work…,Want to change but don't know what to do。Obviously I work hard,But some people are pulling their hind legs,But because of maintaining friendship between colleagues,You always take a tolerant role。But have you ever thought about,While accommodating others,How much resentment、anger、Helplessly swallowed into your belly? Bit by bit makes you more and more stressed,And work hard to die。 工作壓力將如何影響你? 適當的壓力使人成長,But if the pressure is not adjusted properly,Too much stress will only make the body and mind unable to bear、Health lights up red。Stress is a chronic disease,Its influence is far greater than you imagine,Constantly eroding your body and mind。Not only is my heart depressed by pressure,Cause emotional instability,The body will also be out of condition。Endocrine disorders、Arrhythmia、Gastrointestinal diseases、decrease in immunity,Even increased the risk of death from cardiovascular disease。 The Republic of China Heart Foundation conducted a workplace survey of more than 1,000 office workers in the three metropolitan areas of China,Nearly 80% of the respondents work more than seven hours a day,There is a large part of people who suffer from insomnia almost every day due to work pressure。Don't underestimate the power of work pressure,Face up to its impact,Is there a way to solve it effectively。 It ’s hard to hear of the case of working hard because of work pressure,News of overwork and health problems is not uncommon。How to effectively relieve stress? The writer John Miller mentioned in his book,"You cannot change others,Only you can change。"When all the unhappiness comes one after another,Can only change oneself,Adjust mentality、Adjusting the pace of work is the key to solving stress。 喘口氣吧! 釋放工作壓力三大招 安排時間是門藝術,Relaxation is also part of the itinerary。 Not just the timing of transaction execution,Arrangement of relaxation time is also necessary。List the transactions within one by one,Sort by priority,Solve it again。Always be aware of any delays,Also remember not to delay。Once the first item is delayed,Later tasks will not keep up with the estimated completion time,Work pressure is increasing。As for the time after work,Or a holiday that can breathe,Schedule a period of relaxation、Worry-free itinerary! Whether watching TV at home、listen to music、daze,Or go outing with family,Are good choices。 Maybe someone will think,Special arrangements to relax are a waste of time。however,According to research by the University of California,Intermittent stress activates brain cells,Although it can effectively enhance memory;But constant pressure,Causes the brain to inhibit the development of new cells,Which in turn leads to reduced efficiency,So timely relaxation is very important。In addition, you may wish to put a brief relaxation into the work list.,When you are busy, give yourself time to activate your brain cells,工作效率才能有所提升! 轉換工作模式、Positive reply is the beginning of progress。 Try different working modes,You can also ask other people's suggestions,Make your work ability improve more and more。however,Not everything can end perfectly under the premise of taking care of yourself。Like meeting a supervisor、Colleagues make things difficult for you。At this moment,Just change your mindset,Reply to yourself with positive words,The problem will be solved。For example "This is a good opportunity to hone",Or "He is just jealous of me,I want to work harder upstream,Make him speechless ",The mood will calm down a lot,Work pressure will also be reduced,It can even make the work ability gradually increase。 In addition,Adam Grant, a professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, has done an experiment,The experiment content is,Just remind employees of the meaning and importance of work,They will be more motivated,To become more productive。So always reminding yourself of the meaning and importance of work is also one of the ways to relieve stress。 Don't brace yourself,有人可以協助你! 當發現壓力已經大到令你不舒服時,Don't be afraid to ask for help。Everyone has pressure,That's not abnormal,It can even be said to be a very common phenomenon。People who collapse due to stress are not low in stress resistance,But loves to be more brave than others。If the above methods cannot help you,Then it ’s time to give it to the professional。Like Zhang Line 1980、1995 or the Department of Health at ease lifeline Line 0800-788-995,There are professional consultants to help you out。Among those who participated in the consultation,More than 80% said that professional consultation effectively solved the pressure。 If you think the pressure is still under control,But still often feel depressed,May wish to participate in some spiritual exploration related courses or adjust emotional stress courses,Professional teachers can also be tailored for you,Give effective assistance。must remember,Stress is not sick,But the pressure is so high。Don't ignore stress,Self-communication、Seeking family or friends or professional consultation,Don't always stand alone,那是不健康的! 用對方法 從壓力中解脫 世界衛生組織(WHO)this year(2019)Conduct a pressure index survey for each country,data shows that,Taiwan ranks second in the stress index,並有96%的人經常感受到壓力。Visible in Taiwan,How common is stress,Even became a habit and gradually ignored him。 pressure,Much more complicated than we thought。Not only involves the human body system,Also related to psychological issues。Take a moment to understand your pressure,才有機會和它

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如何克服社交恐懼症?3大心法找回行動力第一步先認識自己

社交恐懼症是許多人有的症狀你是否有過明明有很多事想做卻怎麼都提不起幹勁?好不容易放假只想待在家裡躺在沙發上看電視全身都沒有活力?一開始躍躍欲試後來卻都不想做最後什麼都沒有完成?其中認識自己是關鍵到底該如何認識自己才能夠幫助自己更有動力呢?以下分享3大行動力心法推薦給渴望有效自我改變的人克服社交恐懼症第一步:Know yourself,我的心魔是什麼? 認識自己看起來似乎很抽象更口語一點的說法就是「剖析自我問題」無論是想減肥學語言練習某種技能想要讓自己變得更好這些改變並不簡單自我改變的關鍵在於認識自己而不是挑戰意志力想要進行自我改變第一步必須剖析自我問題也就是把過往失敗的原因找出來去釐清到底為什麼會變成現在這樣在哪些狀況下自己沒辦法堅持所造成的? 第一步很難卻很關鍵!因為,Know yourself,必須要能承認自己的弱點並挖掘自己之所以屢次失敗的原因否則永遠都是在錯誤的地方努力著在《為什麼我們這樣生活那樣工作?》一書中提出了「習慣迴路」理論作者表示想要破除舊習慣養成新習慣的自動導航機制認識自己的關鍵在於自我察覺力習慣不能改卻可以替代第一步先認識自己找出內心的自動導航機制。E.g:一個想要減肥的人總是戒不掉上班吃點心的習慣唯有認識自己並挖掘核心問題才會發現自己戒不掉零食的原因可能是因為想逃避工作壓力等等掌握核心問題之後這才對症下藥付諸行動力替代行為可以找人聊天或嚼口香糖來紓壓針對問題的行動力才能有效地自我改變。therefore,認識自己是很重要的鍛鍊克服社交恐懼症第二步:Setting target,我真心想要什麼? 光是承認自己的弱點還不夠還必須認真去思考「自己到底想要什麼」,E.g:我到底渴望什麼?我想成為怎麼樣的人?我到底想完成什麼事情?未來想要什麼樣的生活?想在別人面前呈現一個怎樣的自己? 設定目標超關鍵!就好比你今天想要去某個地方如果你沒有目標的話就連怎麼去?去到哪裡?花多少時間?這些根本沒有頭緒更別提會有什麼行動力了若沒有把真正想要什麼搞清楚怎麼努力都是白費的甚至可能讓自己跟目標背道而馳最後根本離自己想要的事物越來越遠你會發現很多人並沒打算玩真的,for example,很多人整天喊著要減肥但嘴巴依然吃不停。therefore,若是渴望讓改變真正發生就要為自己訂出一個目標關鍵來了!設定的這個目標必須是你自己看得見旦又有一點挑戰的感覺你必須要脫離現在的舒適圈才能去達成但這個目標又不會讓你完全做不到因為設定合適的目標才會讓你相信自己其實是可以完成的如果一開始太貪心設定的目標太大了大到讓你的心裡沒辦法相信那麼設定這個目標對你而言是沒有意義的設定目標是為了給自己一個付諸行動力的方向唯有設定了目標之後每天早上起來才會知道自己到底要完成什麼?有哪些事情自己應該要去做?雖然這個目標現在離自己還有點遠但是沒關係它確實是可以完成的唯有「真心相信」自己可以做的到才不至於一下子就放棄了克服社交恐懼症第三步評估現況我願意犧牲什麼? 第一步找出核心問題之後也設定好合適的目標知道自己要去哪裡了接下來就得知道自己目前有多少資源評估自己預備怎麼達到這個目標?畢竟一廂情願地為自己訂目標是空泛的因為很有可能自己根本沒有達成那目標的條件。 after all,跑馬拉松是目的一個有在跑步的人跟一個沒有運動習慣的人賽前擬定的運動計畫就會截然不同。therefore,弄清楚自己到底欠缺什麼至關重要。 the first:了解自己的實力到哪裡? 第二了解自己跟目標的距離? 這樣子才能夠拿自己擁有的資源去交換自己渴望的目標,E.g:用汗水與時間去交換身材用心力與金錢去交換語言能力畢竟沒有人可以什麼都要藉由評估客觀條件與了解現況貫徹3大行動力心法獲得自己真正渴望擁有的人生看到這裡迫不急待找回行動力了嗎?最後不妨寫下兩件事:1寫下一件想達成卻一直未能達成的目標。2這個目標對你的意義?達成之後有什麼好處?如此一來距離夢想又更近一步了

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