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Years after the transfer incoming tide,I switched careers to do? 3 View the question should not leave

The end of the year is approaching,Many people want to convert the runway,Change of job。however,Want to change jobs in the years after,But could not get the courage of people are not a minority。Work is like a lover and exchanges,As long as the idea had "wanted to leave" in,就該好好思考這間公司到底適不適合我? 不確定是否要轉換跑道;Fear not as good after transfer;Or would like to leave but can not find another reason to convince myself and so determined,Various problems tangled in his head,It is a head two big。If you have encountered more trouble,You can ask yourself the following three questions,Confirm whether his heart is still present firm;And whether it is ready to change jobs。 想離職?問問自己3個問題 問題一公司有滿足你的需求嗎? 夢想固然重要,But still have to face the real into account。Conversion of the former runway,Ask yourself for welfare、salary、Whether commuting distance and work environment satisfaction? Whether the company's vision and ideas with their boss match? If the satisfaction of no more than Liu Cheng,In relation to carefully consider the transfer。 Question two:是否能在工作中獲得成就感? 若這份工作無法帶給你成就感,On behalf of your ability far beyond the current position。That,As long as you are willing to try、Conversion runway,Can definitely find a better job than it is now。In addition,You can not get a job to get a sense of accomplishment,Easy to portray you as a zombie society。If the duration of time spent in that,The future find themselves when nothing,Leaving only full of emptiness。 Question three:你開心嗎? 這個問題看似簡單,But also the most difficult to reach。Many people will think, "How can the work be happy ah?" But before transfer,One thing you must think carefully:Work accounted for one third of life,If you do not happy,Qibushibai live it? So seriously think that you are doing does not happy is something important。 If the above questions are in the negative,Not because the current situation can not meet their expectations and sad。on the contrary,You can let go chase your dreams、Conversion runway,Toward the greater goal;And ask them more questions,But still hesitant,Do not worry,You're just not ready to transfer。Give yourself time,Good finishing and then convert the status of the runway too late。 Further reading: 大家是不是都討厭我? 3個方法讓你增加自信員工表現差強人意?企業教練幫你拴緊企業中的小螺絲如何讓自己快樂? 經科學證實 5個快樂的方法

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We are not all hate me? 3 way for you to increase self-confidence / Figure:Pexels

We are not all hate me? 3 way for you to increase self-confidence

Increased self-confidence seems to be simple,Not easy。As long as people,There will be no self-confidence when。At this moment,You only need to do a few things you can increase self-confidence,讓你重拾自信心! 你是否常常覺得自己有很多缺點?外表不好看、Personality is not lovable,Nothing can? Emotionally,People always think like do not like their;On career,Old feel colleague、長官對你有偏見? 在這庸庸碌碌的現代,Everyone in order to live,And even survival,Give up a lot of things。Abandoned the dream、ideal;gradually,Abandoned the instinct to create happy。Full of negative thoughts in daily life,criticism、Abusive,Making himself less and less self-confidence。 Traditional education in Asian countries want us to keep improving,Well they would go better。Such an environment,We always shaped the personality of their own are not satisfied。Always striving for perfection,And love from time to time to pick and choose their own,Consider themselves useless。 but,No one is born perfect。 No confidence is not terrible,The frightening thing is you want to get better,But always in denial own! Constantly criticize themselves,Does not make you increase confidence、become better,Will only make you more pressure、No more self-confidence。 Want to increase self-confidence,You can try the following three ways。 method one、增進自己的優點 想要增加自信,You must be assured of their own。Not to be satisfied with doing everything yourself,But start with the little things began to identify。 Ask someone else:"I have what advantage?" If someone says you're a very enthusiastic person,You can develop this advantage,To help more people;Or are you cook was praised,You can also sophisticated cooking,The specialty training。 Focus on something sophisticated top,You will be able to slowly build confidence。 Method Two、每天鼓勵自己 除了培養專長外,You can also try every day to their words of encouragement。 Like saying to myself in the mirror:"You did very well"、"You work very hard" or "You are the best", etc.,Such positive statements。According to the Law of Attraction,Just keep encouraging yourself,You will be the way you want。 Method Three、記錄下自己的好 將自己表現得不錯的事記錄下來,And ask yourself to write at least three good deeds every day。 The purpose of doing so,Is to make you aware of your strengths。When you are not yet confident of their own,Out to look at the diary。in fact,你比你想像中還要優秀! 增加自信不僅能使生活更加快樂,You can also improve the efficiency of work。If you are not confident of their own people,May wish to try to see these three ways to increase self-confidence,Make yourself a better person。 Further reading: How to be happy? Scientifically proven 5 個快樂的方法 工作壓力大想死? 三步驟粉碎壓力!讓你更認識自己,6

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How to make yourself happy? Scientifically proven 5 ways to be happy / Figure:Pexels

How to make yourself happy? Scientifically proven 5 ways to be happy

「如何讓自己快樂?」是所有人畢生的功課,Many people also kept in the pursuit of things。however,Not everyone is happy way to know,Have negative thoughts is inevitable。 What a happy way to what? In fact, there is no certain answer。All people are different individuals,Have different personalities and characteristics,快樂的方法也就不一樣。Share the following six ways possible for you,Tell you how to make yourself happy。 方法一 多微笑 每天出門前,In the mirror of their own smile about。 Research indicates that,When people smile,Brain releases dopamine,This will make people feel happy。When aware of their depression,Remind yourself "laugh"。And this is not a simple smile "smirk",Is the need to try "real laugh."。The corners of the mouth upward,Naturally the eyes squint together,Even you can think about interesting things,Let yourself laugh。 Smiling effect not only that。除了使自己更快樂,Smile often also make you feel good,Attention has improved and ideas are,Will become more outstanding performance,Can be said to serve two purposes。 方法二 多運動 運動不只是為了要身體健康,But also relieve stress、One way to increase the joy of。 One day to yourself 7 minute,Choose a suitable own motion。Like a walk after dinner,Or morning jogging,Are good choices。 In the "happiness advantage" (The Happiness Advantage) a book mentioned in a study:There are three groups of patients with depression treatment through medication、Movement or a combination of both cure depression。And this study is surprising,Only medication therapy group,In late chances of recurrence are 38 %;drug、Movement of combination therapy have 31 %;Movement alone cured only 9 %。It can be seen,The importance of exercise can not be underestimated。 Method Three

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Misanthropy is not a crime to embrace their negative energy it! / Images from pexels

Misanthropy is not a crime to release negative energy it yourself!

厭世的人生有那麼糟嗎?看什麼都不順眼、Everything felt good trouble、Feel alive tired! Many people feel weary will only bring negative effects,但其實,People can embrace negative energy,心理狀態往往是更加強大! 你是否總是看什麼都不順眼、Everything felt good trouble、Feel alive tired? Perhaps many people feel weary will only have a negative impact。however,Research indicates that,But excessive positive energy so that the pressure will become increasingly heavy;People can embrace negative energy,Mental state is often more powerful。 The release of negative energy to show moderation,厭世讓你釐清現實 釋放負能量首先適度地展現負面能量,Is not only a good way to vent pressure,But also to avoid a crisis at a critical moment。 知名精神科醫師林耕新在2015年發表的文章中指出,Excessive positive thinking will make people ignore the dangers and difficulties are real。After realizing that the crisis,It will become impossible to adapt to the reality,Thus resulting in a more melancholy soul。 Is like driving a vehicle,Overly optimistic people might think, "As long as I'm safe driving,I will be able to safely reach their destination。」;World-weary people might think, "Even if I have to drive no matter how safe,Still others are likely to be hit。"The reality is,Unexpected always comes unexpectedly。When the other vehicle accident collision over,厭世的人反而能比樂觀者更快注意到危險的存在,And avoid as much as possible。 過度樂觀使情緒更低落 美國的兩位心理學家Julie Norem和Nancy Cantor在1986年發表了一篇廣為人知的論文。Which introduces two terms,Strategic optimism與Defensive pessimism,That is "Strategy type of optimism" and "defensive pessimism"。 Has a "strategy Optimism" qualities of people,Good to imagine a better result,And hope to try to do it;The "defensive pessimism" traits of people,It is a negative attitude to predict error that may occur,And when the job as much as possible to avoid errors。Although these two types of people,On doing things can have quite an achievement。But much,People "optimistic strategy type" off than "defensive pessimism" have the opportunity to have a greater pressure,This is due to the thwarted expectations sake。 In addition,Julie Norem也在她的書(The Positive Power Of Negative Thinking)中表示,Often weary of the negative energy into positive energy to change,At work to show better results。 厭世不是罪 過度樂觀更危險 除了以上所說的觀點許多研究也指出 —「必須保持樂觀」的心理狀態,Likely to cause greater pressure。 像是2016年的情緒期刊(Emotion)所刊登的「強迫保持正向思考是否比較快樂」研究俄亥俄州立大學醫學中心的心理學家Sophie

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Complete your life goals with a piece of cake! Exclusive secret techniques/pictures used throughout life from pexels

Complete the life goal list with a piece of cake! Exclusive secret techniques used for life

The list of life goals seems out of reach,Want to complete but always unable to do it? Hundreds of ways to achieve your goals,But which one is really effective? Buy a car、Buy a house、Travel around the world、marry、Birth、elderly life…,I want to do a lot,But what can I do now? I'll tell you today,How to rely on "three questions",Let yourself reach your life goals smoothly! ! Everyone has several goals in life,But where to start and finish,Is the most difficult thing。How do I know what I can do now? First of all,You must clarify the "three questions"。after that,"How to start?Will be solved。 Three questions to help you complete the list of planning life goals 1. What do I want? Make a list of life goals,Focus on firepower to achieve your dreams。There are not too many items in this life goal list,Because every stage will have different dreams,And too many goals are unrealistic,Unable to achieve。So list up to five big goals,And how long before。Whether it is a physiological need、Relationships,Or career planning、Future expectations,Can be regarded as a goal。E.g:I want to buy a house within ten years。 2.What restricts me? Clarify the status quo,Consider your own identity,And think about the family、jobs、What does social economic status limit me。Dream is the most beautiful,But also must bow to reality。But don't worry,Looking down now does not mean that you can’t look up in the future。To figure out the present situation is not to give up your dream,It's about letting yourself aim,Move faster。Ask yourself what are the possible reasons that prevent me from achieving my goal in life? And write them down one by one。E.g:I don't have enough deposit。 3.How can I break the restrictions? Find what you can do now,And proceed。As long as I really want to do,You can do anything! (Excluding things that violate moral ethics)。But everything is difficult to start,How to start is the biggest test。therefore,"Planning" is a very important part。Set life goals、After clarifying reality,Also know what difficulties are encountered,You can start planning,Turn big problems into smaller problems,Minor problems become no problem。E.g:Start saving tomorrow,One-month cost reduction of two thousand yuan。 Remarks:When you reach the third step,The task to be completed may be a little difficult,At this time, continue to disassemble this problem into smaller、Easier to reach problem。You can also make the task more specific、More detailed completion time and completion method。E.g:Buy two fewer clothes every month。 Using the right method, buying a house in the list of life goals is not a problem.,You must keep asking yourself the above three questions:"What do I want?"、"What limits me?"、"How do I break the limit?"。In addition,Can also use the same question repeatedly,Make "planning" better。E.g:From the original "I want to buy a house in ten years,But I don’t have enough deposit,So i should save money。"Extends to "I want to reduce the cost of 2,000 yuan per month,But shopping desires cost me too much,So I have to buy two clothes less a month。"The problem is at the end,Which means "buy two fewer clothes a month",Already an easy goal。From then on, start to complete your life goals,Will look a lot easier。 Since the planning method has,Then hit the iron while it's hot,Pick up the paper and pen at hand,Immediately draw your own blueprint for life goals! As for how to portray it? We can use the mind map to analyze this list of life goals。Examples are as follows: Starting from the big goal (buying a house within ten years),Identified income and insufficient deposits as the main obstacles。therefore,In the next branch, you can present these two points,And indicate the main reason for insufficient income and deposits。Keep exploring,Can clarify what I can do,That is reading management books、Take a communication course and buy two fewer clothes a month。 Practice is the main thing and the mind is the second. I believe many people have read or heard the book "Secret"-as long as there is a life goal,And want to reach the goal,You will move towards your goal。The reason is actually very simple,When you want to accomplish something,Will naturally start planning。gradually,Shallow consciousness will tell you must complete it。There is a 34-year-old girl Misaki in Japan,With 15 years of frugality,Bought three houses。The mental method she uses is to set a goal in life on a notebook:I will buy a second house at the age of 29;And bought the third building at the age of 34。In this way,Dreams naturally come closer to reality,Will also be completed in a smooth manner。(Further reading:Save money and buy three houses! A 27-year-old girl in Japan who is determined to buy a house, 6 years after the interview is already a charter wife) Life goals list Complete now! Combining the above points,Can draw a conclusion:The way to accomplish life goals is to make an oath to yourself (life goals),Then I kept asking myself "What do I want?"、"What limits me?"、"How do I break the limit?",And start planning right away。It's not difficult to achieve life goals,The difficulty is whether you are willing to work hard for your goals,And work hard for it。At last,The same old saying,As long as you have the heart,You can do it! Go bravely towards your dreams!

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Work pressure to breathe? Three ways to help you release stress / images from pexels

Work pressure want to die? Three-step pulverizing pressure!

工作壓力大到讓你的生活亂了腳步?面臨主管的打壓、Colleagues' competition,You who work hard to take responsibility,Behind is the unfinished mortgage、Taxes,Powerless、You can't breathe without help。 The human body is like a balloon,Gave too much air,Cause excessive stress,One day it will explode because it can't bear it。工作壓力大是現代人的通病,If you leave it alone,I am afraid it will affect the physical and mental health and interpersonal relationships,Even further away from the closest family。But how to properly relieve work pressure? Let's give ourselves ten minutes,Think hard,壓力對自己而言是什麼吧! 工作壓力大想死? 必須先認識壓力 壓力源是從哪來的? 不停忍耐加上無法釋放,Leading to increasing pressure。however,When stress is not properly liberated,Only a vicious circle,Make the pressure expand infinitely。Disturbance in the workplace,You must know if you are out of society。Envy among colleagues、Distrust of the supervisor、A pile of undigested work…,Want to change but don't know what to do。Obviously I work hard,But some people are pulling their hind legs,But because of maintaining friendship between colleagues,You always take a tolerant role。But have you ever thought about,While accommodating others,How much resentment、anger、Helplessly swallowed into your belly? Bit by bit makes you more and more stressed,And work hard to die。 工作壓力將如何影響你? 適當的壓力使人成長,But if the pressure is not adjusted properly,Too much stress will only make the body and mind unable to bear、Health lights up red。Stress is a chronic disease,Its influence is far greater than you imagine,Constantly eroding your body and mind。Not only is my heart depressed by pressure,Cause emotional instability,The body will also be out of condition。Endocrine disorders、Arrhythmia、Gastrointestinal diseases、decrease in immunity,Even increased the risk of death from cardiovascular disease。 The Republic of China Heart Foundation conducted a workplace survey of more than 1,000 office workers in the three metropolitan areas of China,Nearly 80% of the respondents work more than seven hours a day,There is a large part of people who suffer from insomnia almost every day due to work pressure。Don't underestimate the power of work pressure,Face up to its impact,Is there a way to solve it effectively。 It ’s hard to hear of the case of working hard because of work pressure,News of overwork and health problems is not uncommon。How to effectively relieve stress? The writer John Miller mentioned in his book,"You cannot change others,Only you can change。"When all the unhappiness comes one after another,Can only change oneself,Adjust mentality、Adjusting the pace of work is the key to solving stress。 喘口氣吧! 釋放工作壓力三大招 安排時間是門藝術,Relaxation is also part of the itinerary。 Not just the timing of transaction execution,Arrangement of relaxation time is also necessary。List the transactions within one by one,Sort by priority,Solve it again。Always be aware of any delays,Also remember not to delay。Once the first item is delayed,Later tasks will not keep up with the estimated completion time,Work pressure is increasing。As for the time after work,Or a holiday that can breathe,Schedule a period of relaxation、Worry-free itinerary! Whether watching TV at home、listen to music、daze,Or go outing with family,Are good choices。 Maybe someone will think,Special arrangements to relax are a waste of time。however,According to research by the University of California,Intermittent stress activates brain cells,Although it can effectively enhance memory;But constant pressure,Causes the brain to inhibit the development of new cells,Which in turn leads to reduced efficiency,So timely relaxation is very important。In addition, you may wish to put a brief relaxation into the work list.,When you are busy, give yourself time to activate your brain cells,工作效率才能有所提升! 轉換工作模式、Positive reply is the beginning of progress。 Try different working modes,You can also ask other people's suggestions,Make your work ability improve more and more。however,Not everything can end perfectly under the premise of taking care of yourself。Like meeting a supervisor、Colleagues make things difficult for you。At this moment,Just change your mindset,Reply to yourself with positive words,The problem will be solved。For example "This is a good opportunity to hone",Or "He is just jealous of me,I want to work harder upstream,Make him speechless ",The mood will calm down a lot,Work pressure will also be reduced,It can even make the work ability gradually increase。 In addition,Adam Grant, a professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, has done an experiment,The experiment content is,Just remind employees of the meaning and importance of work,They will be more motivated,To become more productive。So always reminding yourself of the meaning and importance of work is also one of the ways to relieve stress。 Don't brace yourself,有人可以協助你! 當發現壓力已經大到令你不舒服時,Don't be afraid to ask for help。Everyone has pressure,That's not abnormal,It can even be said to be a very common phenomenon。People who collapse due to stress are not low in stress resistance,But loves to be more brave than others。If the above methods cannot help you,Then it ’s time to give it to the professional。Like Zhang Line 1980、1995 or the Department of Health at ease lifeline Line 0800-788-995,There are professional consultants to help you out。Among those who participated in the consultation,More than 80% said that professional consultation effectively solved the pressure。 If you think the pressure is still under control,But still often feel depressed,May wish to participate in some spiritual exploration related courses or adjust emotional stress courses,Professional teachers can also be tailored for you,Give effective assistance。must remember,Stress is not sick,But the pressure is so high。Don't ignore stress,Self-communication、Seeking family or friends or professional consultation,Don't always stand alone,那是不健康的! 用對方法 從壓力中解脫 世界衛生組織(WHO)this year(2019)Conduct a pressure index survey for each country,data shows that,Taiwan ranks second in the stress index,並有96%的人經常感受到壓力。Visible in Taiwan,How common is stress,Even became a habit and gradually ignored him。 pressure,Much more complicated than we thought。Not only involves the human body system,Also related to psychological issues。Take a moment to understand your pressure,才有機會和它

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一個男人垂頭喪氣

How to manage time to achieve their goals? 5 Methods,Start with the "down" to start

Management by objectives is very important,sometimes,Too many ideas or objectives at the same time,People will be overwhelmed,In such times,該怎麼做? 目標管理要實行,But at the same time pursue diverse goals is a difficult thing,E.g:New Year's time set a new goal for yourself,Demands on themselves to get up early every day、writing、Fitness and a lot of reading。This is everything among us are good,So we usually will be very excited to begin,The results after a day in the past but found,How did themselves more and more power? Then they gradually began to commit from the "procrastination",To the last,We probably are not even half the ideas to implement。 When they are also overwhelmed too many ideas or objectives,Try the following 5 Ways: A target management practices、為自己的目標設定「迷你期限」 英國歷史與政治學者──帕金森(Cyril Northcote Parkinson)在 1957 Proposed the "Parkinson's Law",This is also known as the law of "trivial the law.",Intention "to spend a lot of time discussing irrelevant trivia,For the really big resolution, but quickly settled phenomenon。"When we spend too much time in the same task,We were the more likely the impact of "Parkinson's Law"。 for example,If you give us a week deadline to complete the original only 3 Hour mission,We will unwittingly increase the complexity of this task,And in time this week which kept stalling。The best way to combat this phenomenon,Is set to "mini-deadline" for themselves,Force yourself to complete tasks in a shorter time frame。 If you want to try to initiate action,You can start by creating a "list of daily tasks.",Roughly attach time required to complete each task takes to,And the time required for each task minus half,Ask yourself this time as a period,To complete the task before this。 目標管理作法二善用 80/20 法則 通俗地來說,80/ 20 rule shows that we pay 20 %,The rest will be contributed to our task results 80 %。for example,People who want to lose weight need to exercise,Some sports (such as high-intensity sprint) takes only 20

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克服恐懼迎向光明

如何克服社交恐懼症?3大心法找回行動力第一步先認識自己

社交恐懼症是許多人有的症狀你是否有過明明有很多事想做卻怎麼都提不起幹勁?好不容易放假只想待在家裡躺在沙發上看電視全身都沒有活力?一開始躍躍欲試後來卻都不想做最後什麼都沒有完成?其中認識自己是關鍵到底該如何認識自己才能夠幫助自己更有動力呢?以下分享3大行動力心法推薦給渴望有效自我改變的人克服社交恐懼症第一步:Know yourself,我的心魔是什麼? 認識自己看起來似乎很抽象更口語一點的說法就是「剖析自我問題」。 Whether you want to lose weight、Learn language、Practice a skill,Want to make myself better,These changes are not simple,The key to self-change is to know yourself,Instead of challenging willpower。Want to make self-change,The first step must be to analyze self problems,Which is to find out the cause of past failures,To clarify why it is like this,在哪些狀況下自己沒辦法堅持所造成的? 第一步很難,It's crucial! because,Know yourself,Must be able to admit their weaknesses,And discover the reasons why I failed repeatedly,Otherwise, you will always work hard in the wrong place。在《為什麼我們這樣生活那樣工作?》一書中提出了「習慣迴路」理論,The author says he wants to break old habits,Automatic navigation mechanism to develop new habits,The key to knowing yourself is self-awareness。 Habit can't be changed,But can replace,第一步先認識自己,Find out the inner automatic navigation mechanism。E.g:A person who wants to lose weight,I can’t stop the habit of eating snacks at work,Only know yourself and tap the core issues,To find out why I can’t quit snacks,It may be because you want to escape work pressure, etc.,After mastering the core problem,This is where the right medicine is put into action,Alternative behavior can find someone to chat or chew gum to relieve pressure,Problem-oriented action can effectively change itself。therefore,Knowing yourself is an important exercise。 克服社交恐懼症第二步設定目標我真心想要什麼? 光是承認自己的弱點還不夠還必須認真去思考「自己到底想要什麼」,E.g:我到底渴望什麼?我想成為怎麼樣的人?我到底想完成什麼事情?未來想要什麼樣的生活?想在別人面前呈現一個怎樣的自己? 設定目標超關鍵!就好比你今天想要去某個地方,If you don't have a goal,How can I get there? Where to go? How much time does it take? These have no clue,Not to mention the power of action。 If you don’t know what you really want,Any effort is in vain,It may even make you run counter to your goals,In the end, it is farther and farther away from what I want。You will find,Many people did not plan to play really,比方說,Many people shout all day to lose weight,But the mouth is still eating。therefore,If you are eager to make change happen,We must set a goal for ourselves。 The key is here! Set this goal,Must be visible to you,Once again a little bit of a challenge,You have to get out of the comfort zone to achieve it,But this goal will not make you completely impossible,Because setting the right goals,So that you can believe that you can actually accomplish it。If you are too greedy at first,The goal set is too big,Too big to believe in your heart,Then set this goal,Is meaningless to you,The goal is set to give yourself a direction to put into action。 Only,After setting the goal,I wake up every morning to know what I am going to accomplish? What things should I do? Although this goal,I'm still far away from myself,it's OK,It can really be done,Only "believing" can do it,So I don’t give up all at once。 克服社交恐懼症第三步:Assessment status,我願意犧牲什麼? 第一步找出核心問題之後,Also set the right goals,Know where i am going,Next you have to know how many resources you currently have,Assess how you plan to achieve this goal? After all, wishful thinking for yourself is empty,Because it is very likely that he has not met the conditions for that goal。 after all,Running a marathon is the purpose,A person who is running and a person who is not used to exercise,The sports plan prepared before the game will be very different。therefore,It's important to understand what you lack。 第一了解自己的實力到哪裡? 第二了解自己跟目標的距離? 這樣子,So that they can exchange the resources they desire for the goals they desire,E.g:Sweat and time to exchange body;Exchange language ability with effort and money,After all, no one can do anything,By evaluating objective conditions and understanding the current situation,Carry out the three major action methods,Get the life you really want to have。 See here,Are you in a hurry to get back the power? At last,May wish to write down two things:1Write down something you want to achieve,But the goal that has never been achieved。2What does this goal mean to you? What are the benefits after reaching it? In this way,Distance dream,One step closer。

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親子關係與溝通技巧

Let the children know themselves,Encourage independent learning,Parent-child relationship can not be ignored three communication skills

"Why have they refused to have studied harder!" The child is not always active learning,Parent-child relationship parents do not always know how to do ah! Parent-child relationship,Many parents are eager to talk about anything with their children,But forget the communication skills to convey the love,Many parents with children communication skills close to zero,Often scolding criticism、Nagging broken read、Authoritarian commands replace the care of children,Over time the school children would not say something with you。 Share the following three major key communication skills,Help parents build a better parent-child relationship with the children。 為什麼孩子會在父母面前禁閉心靈呢? 英國教育家斯賓塞說過:"What children want? What kind of problems faced? Child's inner world is like a box full of hidden secrets。In this box,There are animals、There are people、There are dreams、Emotional,Chaotically stuffed inside。If you do not regularly open to look at,One day when you inadvertently open,Might be a rat ran out from the inside,You scared the daylights。」 許多父母最常犯的錯誤,The idea is not to understand the child,Reimbursing their own subjective thoughts to infer,The result is like this parent-child relationship tense。In this way,No matter how parents encourage children,The results will be "turn iron into steel."。do not forget,Communication Skills,Education is also a way。 Let the children more aware of their own method、Improper judge,Learn to be a lawyer,聽孩子把話說完 如果,A problem child,Parents immediately became "judges" lessons children,Equal to cut off direct access to the inner world of children,Who can make a mistake when,Parents no exception。especially,When parents to authoritarian or accused style tone,It is easy to let the children caused great rebound。therefore,When communicating with children,Be sure to put down the judge to assess parents,To tone with an open mind and concern,To guide their children to speak his mind,To be like "lawyer" to treat their party as,Try to listen to the real heart of the idea of ​​children。 In the parent-child relationship,The first communication skills,It is the "understanding"。Down the default position and criticism,Take the time to really listen to children's ideas and needs。 Example A:It's too difficult,You can not complete。➙ long,You spend enough time and effort,Everything is possible。 Let the children more aware of their own Method Two、Improper referee,Learn to do cheerleading,給孩子需要的支持 親子關係中,Some parents like to help children make decisions,When given a free hand to "referee",With interference with restrictions to protect children,The most commonly heard was "I is to Hello.",Even for the children to make direct decisions。Back on schoolwork,Even if a child less prominent performance,As long as parents know how to discover and praise the child,To guide their children in the right state of mind facing failure,Play a good boy "cheerleaders",To support the restrictions in place,Parents will be children of the most powerful backing,Let the children have the opportunity to be themselves,To be able to cultivate children's independent character and self-confidence。 In the parent-child relationship,The second communication skills,It is "respect."。Let go,Let the children learn to make decisions,He is not not learn,But has not been given the opportunity,Learn how to do it。 Example B:Xiaohua next door is not in the same class with you,Also at the same cram a,People pretty good,How every time you do not like him? ➙ only need to learn his methods,Then seriously do,你也可以有辦法! 讓孩子更認識自己方法三、Improper teacher,School friends,與孩子平等交流 孩子需要傾聽,Parents gave them a lot of suggestions,Says that this is the love of parents。In the parent-child relationship,Once the parents just want to move under the guidance When the "teacher",Children with parents is always unequal。Only parents willing to work with children as equals,Try to stand in the child's point of view the problem,Guide children to tell the real feelings,When children have a chance with "friends",Hardships and happy to share the process with children,Twists and turns and laughter,Let the children do not fear their parents' authority. ",Really into the child's inner world。 In the parent-child relationship,The third communication skills,It is the "equality"。Parents put down the shelf,Squat down to talk to communicate with their children,More easily into the child's mind。 Examples of C:Even these can be done,I really。➙ you may now do well,But it does not matter,Slowly heading in that direction,Will become increasingly good at the。 Parents love their children,But can not always protect life,Only children to experience,Have a chance to grow up transformation。The role of parents in the family,Just play a manager,Mastering these three great communication skills,Help your child be more independent and self-confidence,Encourage children to achieve self-learning、Healthy growth effect。

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